Disclaimer: If you follow this as a prescription, you will get nowhere.
Everybody lies whether they want to or not.
Everybody has their own hidden agendas.
The world would be a better place if everybody told the truth. You’d know exactly how everyone felt about you. Everyone would know how you felt about them. There would be no politeness, no pleasantries, no wasted words. Every interaction would be raw and real. You would be able to trust every single word you heard.
But this isn’t the world we live in.
We live in a world of deceit, false courtesy, and politics.
We live in a world where you have to guess.
Do they like me, or are they being polite?
Are they answering truthfully, or are they sparing my feelings?
Do they actually respect me, or are they keeping me close for their own reasons?
You can never get an answer you can trust.
The ones who love you will always answer with love.
The ones who hate you will always answer with hate.
Either way, their answer is distorted.
You’ll never get a straight answer free from bias, from hidden agendas, from the filters of their own insecurities.
Existence is fundamentally lonely.
This might sound depressing.
But it can also be liberating.
Most people spend their whole life worrying what others think.
It’s a cliché — but like most clichés, it’s true.
No matter how much you want to, you’ll never truly know.
This uncertainty drives people insane. They become validation addicts. They check their reflection in every eye they meet. They monitor reactions, chase likes, crave applause. Their worth is determined by the nods and claps of strangers.
They begin to crave validation so much that it dictates everything they do. Every choice is filtered through the question: “How will this look?”
This is a terrifying fate.
Because when you need other people to confirm your existence, you’ve already surrendered it.
On the other hand, you can choose to accept the fact.
You will never get clean answers you can rely on. You will never have the certainty that people so desperately crave. Life simply doesn’t operate this way.
And that’s okay.
You can let go.
You can stop begging for clarity that will never come.
You can find deep meaning and satisfaction in the fact that everything is uncertain. You can learn to dance on the edge of doubt. You can discover freedom in realizing that no one knows for sure.
Life is an experience. Nothing is set in stone. Every decision you make is inherently imperfect — and that’s exactly what makes life beautiful.
Most people cannot handle this. They want guarantees. They want prescriptions. They want to be told what to do and promised that it will work.
But reality does not work this way.
Care little for advice and follow your intuition. Lean into the uncertainty. Experience life first-hand and don’t take anything at face value. Feel the sting of failing and the rush of succeeding. Then learn that both are temporary.
Only then will you learn viscerally.
Because humans do not learn from other people’s words. If wisdom could be transferred, we’d all be sages by now. Every sermon, every book, every motivational speech would have already changed the world. But it hasn’t. Because second-hand solutions never stick.
We only truly learn by burning our own hands in the fire.
So stop looking for certainty in others. Stop outsourcing your clarity to people who cannot even see clearly themselves.
I’m not telling you to distrust other people.
But I am telling you to recognize that their answers can only do so much. They will always speak from their perspective. They will always be biased. They will always be imperfect.
So listen if you want to.
But in the end, you must decide for yourself.
You will never get the truth from others.
The only truth worth trusting is the one you discover alone.