Disclaimer: If you follow this as a prescription, you will get nowhere.
Change is one of life’s greatest paradoxes.
It is both the hardest thing to do, yet completely inevitable.
It is what we claim to seek, yet it is also what we fear the most.
When we chase it, it slips away.
When we stop looking, it finds us.
Everything around you is constantly changing.
Atom by atom.
The universe expands.
The earth turns.
Your body regenerates, cell by cell.
And still, most people remain the same.
Same voice.
Same reflexive laughs.
Same insecurities in slightly older packaging.
Same habits they said they would fix a decade ago.
Change is dangled like a carrot.
Always just out of reach.
A cosmic joke.
So what makes real change so rare?
The problem is not that people cannot change.
It is that most people do not actually want to.
They want the feeling of pursuit, not the consequences of transformation.
They want to feel like someone on a journey, without ever arriving.
They want to be seen trying.
They do not want to risk becoming unrecognizable to their current life.
So they reach for plans.
For frameworks.
For coaches.
For to-do lists dressed up as salvation.
But advice does not work.
Guides do not work.
Not because they are wrong,
but because they turn transformation into technique.
And transformation is not a technique.
It is a death.
Something in you has to end.
A version of you must burn.
The moment you search for a method, you admit you are not ready.
You want to simulate movement.
You want to delay responsibility.
You want control over something that was never meant to be controlled.
Real change is never done by the person you are now.
It is done by the person you become in the process.
And that person has no use for guides.
We say we want change, but we avoid the moment it asks for something real.
Because that moment always demands cost.
It threatens comfort.
It threatens identity.
But when you truly want it, change comes effortlessly.
The smoker who stops without patches or hypnosis.
The addict who walks away with nothing but a single moment of clarity.
The person who bounces off rock bottom and never looks back.
When it is real, change does not feel like effort.
It feels like truth.
Final. Irreversible. Quiet.
Most people never get there.
Not because they lack discipline,
but because they lack a reason to change that is greater than their resistance to it.
Rock bottom gives you that reason.
So does facing death.
Moments like that strip the story away.
There is no more self-image to preserve.
Only a raw encounter with what is real.
And strangely, transformation becomes easier.
Change only feels hard when you are still pretending.
Pretending you care.
Pretending you are ready.
Pretending that tomorrow will be different if today looks exactly the same.
But tomorrow is just a copy of now unless you break the frame.
Understanding comes before change. Always.
And real understanding completely rewrites you.
It changes what you see when you wake up.
It changes what you tolerate.
It changes what you no longer need to explain.
You do not become better through effort.
You become different through realization.
That is why some changes stick, and others fall apart.
Not because of willpower.
Not because of tactics.
But because at some point, something in you actually saw the truth.
And once you see it, you cannot unsee it.
So if you are still chasing change, still clinging to plans,
you are not ready.
And that is okay.
Just stop lying about it.
Because when you are ready,
you will not need a method.
You will just move.
Sincerely,
Milo Morrison