You were born completely free.
A clean slate. No obligations. No expectations.
Free to follow every impulse.
Free to be curious.
Free to live.
And then society happened.
From the moment you could walk and speak, you were corrected in a thousand subtle ways. Do not be too loud. Do not be too bold. Do not ask too many questions. Do not take up too much space. This is exactly how most of us are shaped, slowly, consistently, and without our consent.
And it leaves a mark.
Not one you can easily point to, but a quiet pressure that follows you into adulthood. Most people grow up believing they must obey the invisible rules. They feel obliged to behave the way one is supposed to behave. They confuse compliance with maturity and obedience with goodness. But the truth is simple: you are not obliged to follow any of it. Not the norms, not the expectations, not the imagined judgments of strangers whose names you do not know.
Nobody forces you to do anything.
Of course, your own mind will resist this idea. It will insist you must stay the same or people will think less of you. It will warn that you might lose relationships or be seen as selfish. It will invent consequences that feel real simply because your mind was trained in an environment where fitting in meant safety. It is not trying to sabotage you. It is trying to protect whatever keeps you accepted.
But being accepted for something that is not truly you, is failure.
You have spent so many years trying to be acceptable that the idea of being yourself feels dangerous. You hesitate before speaking. You measure your desires against the reactions of others. You pause before admitting what you truly want because you have learned, again and again, that honesty carries a cost. But the greater cost is the slow erosion of your inner world.
There is nothing wrong with being part of a society. But many people are so deeply conditioned that they no longer recognize their own wants. They only know what they have been praised for wanting. They live according to values they never consciously chose, working tirelessly to avoid disappointing anyone. They shape their lives around expectations that were handed to them before they could understand what expectations even were.
But there is another way.
You can question all of it. You can look at every belief you have been carrying and ask if it is truly yours. You can choose what to keep and what to release. You can build a life not from rebellion but from clarity. You can decide what you want to do not because you should, but because you want to. Because it adds something to your life. Because it feels real instead of obligatory.
And yes, this will feel wrong. It will feel risky, unusual, even immoral. That is because you were rewarded your whole life for compliance and punished, directly or indirectly, for honesty. You were taught that wanting something for yourself is selfish, and wanting something different is unacceptable.
But here is the quiet truth beneath all of it: the moment you stop living for permission, you begin living with purpose. The moment you choose to live according to your own wants and needs, you stop fearing the opinions of others and the world opens in a way you never thought possible.
Freedom is not something you are given.
Freedom is something you reclaim, once and forever.
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Milo Morrison