Most people struggle all the time.
They think and think and think.
About what they should do.
About what they have done.
About who they are.
They are constantly evaluating themselves, measuring, comparing, judging. Most of the time they do it for no clear reason and with no clear destination. They want to become better. They want to move further. They want to become different. But they rarely stop to ask what any of that actually means.
Most people strive endlessly toward something they cannot define. They chase vague images of improvement and call it progress, while never noticing that they are running in circles. They convince themselves that they are moving forward, yet most of their energy goes into maintaining the same patterns that keep them stuck.
You only do things if you truly believe they benefit you. Forget what you tell yourself you believe in and forget what you tell others you stand for. Your actions expose your real motives. They show what you actually want. No more and no less.
So if your life is a constant struggle, it is because some part of you wants it that way. This can happen for many reasons. Maybe struggle gives you an escape from something you do not want to face. Maybe it gives you an identity you can present to the world, something dramatic enough to feel meaningful. Maybe it entertains you. Maybe it gives you a story to cling to so you never have to write a new one.
But never treat it as something that simply happens to you. Never dismiss it as random misfortune. Struggle is not an accident. It is not an external storm that sweeps you away. You participate in it. You repeat it. You reinforce it.
You are your struggle.
It begins with you.
It ends with you.
Struggle is not a sudden wave you walk into. It is the rhythm you return to because you know its beat. It is the weight you keep choosing to lift because familiarity feels safe. People cling to struggle because it is predictable. The pain that you understand feels easier than the unknown possibilities. It is often simpler to remain trapped in the chaos you know than to risk discovering who you could be without it.
And so people remain stuck in loops they built themselves. They talk about change, but they avoid the actions that would create it. They imagine a different life, but they continue to repeat the habits of the old one. They wait for clarity, wait for courage, wait for a sign, wait for something. But nothing arrives because deep down they are more loyal to their suffering than to their transformation. They would rather keep rewriting the same chapter than face the empty page of a new beginning.
If you want to end the struggle, start by admitting that you are the one keeping it alive. Not because you are weak, and not because you are incapable, but because you have become attached to a version of yourself that only knows how to live through friction. Letting go of struggle means letting go of who you have been. That is heavy work. That is uncomfortable work. But it is also the first honest step toward becoming someone new.
Struggle fades the moment you stop feeding it. It ends when you stop choosing it. It ends when you decide that clarity matters more than chaos and that growth matters more than the stories that once kept you safe.
It begins and ends with you.
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Milo Morrison